A guest post written by Jen Robinson, Lifewrangling blog
As parents we are always looking for ways to give our children opportunities. We sign them up for sport, music, scouts, things that enable them to develop their talents and find enjoyment in learning new skills, working as a team and achieving their goals. We realize the importance of this for our children. Why then do we find it so difficult to understand the importance of these things for ourselves? We often believe that we don’t have the time and stop doing those things that are good for our physical and mental health including healthy eating, exercise routines and hobbies.
It doesn’t have to be that way though and with a little bit of planning these important activities can return into our lives. (more…)
Are you running on empty? We’ve all seen examples of busy moms who lose their personal identity sacrificing it all to care for the needs and wants of their families, job, or community. Sometimes we tragically see these moms in the news after they have snapped and plummeted off the deep end and hurt people in the process. Most of these women probably meant well initially and maybe didn’t realize they were losing themselves along life’s journey.
Be a role model
Caring for others in spite of ourselves happens easily since there is always something we can do to help someone else, to make our homes cleaner, or to make our boss happier. It’s a slippery slope and in my opinion sends the opposite message that most of us want to pass on to our children. I believe it’s important for kids to see their moms growing and thriving. They can’t witness our personal growth unless we carve out time for ourselves. I want my son, and especially my daughter, to see that I am still a person underneath this supermom cape. I have dreams, I have goals, and I have interests. We encourage our children and our aging parents to step outside the comfort zone. Let’s practice what we preach!
It’s not selfish to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. It’s an act of survival. Ignoring internal passions and interests is dangerous as it can build resentment and burnout. Avoid the burnout by igniting the little bits of kindling inside of you. We all were individuals before we were married and parents. What interests did you have then? In what ways, even if small ways, can you feed those interests and still care for others? (more…)
I’m feeling nostalgic…or maybe just hormonal. As Mother’s Day approaches, I find myself reflecting on the mothers in my family tree and my surrounding motherhood forest of friends and how they all contribute to the mom I am and aspire to be. (more…)
Four Tried and True Time Management Techniques
I have a type A personality and have finally accepted that I can’t change my type. I love to organize just about anything and I’m constantly looking for ways to improve a process. In fact, many of these skills comprise what I do for a living as an IT Product Manager. I get excited in the Container Store and I love to help my friends and family purge a purse and organize a closet. Remember the show, Clean Sweep? Loved it! Years ago I took a Franklin Covey time management class and it was right up my alley. If organization was a language, I’d consider myself fluent. Below, I’m going to try and consolidate my best secrets and systems around time management in the hopes of giving you back a few more hours in your day for you to focus on your personal health and wellness. (more…)
No, this isn’t a typo. I don’t mean indispensable. I truly mean dispensable and here’s why.
If you are indispensable then you are a roadblock in your own life. Everyone is counting on you to help them, they essentially can’t survive without you, or at least think they can’t. No one else can do it the way you do, right?
I’m like you…often feeling squeezed among layers of responsibilities and usually pressed for time. I have felt like I can’t focus attention on any one thing well since I’m just doing a quick once over on many competing items. Life can look like a nest of hungry baby robins depending on mama to be fed. You want to help everyone but you are just one person and there are only so many worms. (more…)