2014 will always be remembered for me as a rough year. Both of my parents have been chronically ill for at least the past decade and there have been many ups and downs but in 2014 their lives started to spiral. In the spring of 2014, my mom has hospitalized with pneumonia and incubated due to breathing complications with her COPD and thankfully surprised us all when she bounced back. We truly thought we were going to lose her. It took weeks in a hospital and a rehab facility and lots of support and prayer. During these difficult months, my family was introduced to an amazing site called caringbridge.org. (more…)
Category: Creating ME Time
Have you heard the Trace Adkin’s song ‘Just Fishin’? Here’s one verse and the chorus:
I love the story this song tells the listener. It’s about a dad spending quality time with his daughter. She’s excited to go fishing but he is older and wiser and knows this experience is so much more than fishing. The video is really sweet.
Both of my teenagers are in travel sports. My 13 year old son plays travel baseball and my daughter plays for a sand volleyball club. With my husband and I both working full time and the extra family responsibilities I have with my mom, life is B U S Y. I have to confess that I miss weekends at home just hanging out. When Monday quickly surfaces, it’s tough to face a new work week after spending a weekend away. We sacrifice the productivity of getting stuff done around the house and we feel like we had too little rest and relaxation. Travel sports are also expensive! I think we probably bought a small car this year between our two kids and their sporting equipment, club fees, and travel expenses. But rather than go on and on about the negative stuff, I wanted to share a huge positive revelation I had this past weekend about travel sports. (more…)
Are you running on empty? We’ve all seen examples of busy moms who lose their personal identity sacrificing it all to care for the needs and wants of their families, job, or community. Sometimes we tragically see these moms in the news after they have snapped and plummeted off the deep end and hurt people in the process. Most of these women probably meant well initially and maybe didn’t realize they were losing themselves along life’s journey.
Be a role model
Caring for others in spite of ourselves happens easily since there is always something we can do to help someone else, to make our homes cleaner, or to make our boss happier. It’s a slippery slope and in my opinion sends the opposite message that most of us want to pass on to our children. I believe it’s important for kids to see their moms growing and thriving. They can’t witness our personal growth unless we carve out time for ourselves. I want my son, and especially my daughter, to see that I am still a person underneath this supermom cape. I have dreams, I have goals, and I have interests. We encourage our children and our aging parents to step outside the comfort zone. Let’s practice what we preach!
It’s not selfish to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. It’s an act of survival. Ignoring internal passions and interests is dangerous as it can build resentment and burnout. Avoid the burnout by igniting the little bits of kindling inside of you. We all were individuals before we were married and parents. What interests did you have then? In what ways, even if small ways, can you feed those interests and still care for others? (more…)
Plan and prep tips for healthier eating
So of all my post categories…this category, nutrition, is my struggle. I really have to work at being consistent with my systems and routines. I seriously LOVE the way my weeks flow when I have a healthy eating plan. However, it just takes a hiccup like leaving town or having a long tournament weekend to get thrown off. But that lovely feeling of control over my nutrition keeps me keeping on.
Prepare to Succeed
Exercise is important for my mental and physical health and I have no problem getting in my workouts but as my trainer often says ‘great abs are made in the kitchen’ meaning that it’s what we feed our bodies that really gets us closer to our physical health goals. One of my main health goals right now is to get to 18-20% body fat and I know that this will not happen with exercise alone. But, whether you are trying to lose body fat or maintain, good nutrition overall just feels better. (more…)
Tips and systems to help you squeeze physical activity in your busy day
In the a recent post I shared how you setup or updated your family calendar and hopefully scheduled in your recurring appointments for your fitness. In the last post, you learned how to be a goal digger and defined some specific personal health goals.
Lace up those sneakers! Now it’s time to take action! (more…)
This recent series of blog posts is about making time for yourself and then using your ME time wisely. In the first post in this series, I offered some time management tips that work for me. If you missed this post, check it out here. Now we need to hone into where you want this ME time to be spent, but first you need to pause and make a plan.
Make things happen
There are two main buckets of people. Those that wait for things to happen to them and those that make things happen. I prefer to surround myself with the people that make things happen. I find them more interesting to talk to, inspiring, and uplifting. Perhaps this explains why I have a sick fascination with reading true WW II stories about survivors of the Holocaust. I can’t get enough of the stories about the strength and perseverance these usually ordinary people had to fight through extreme and unbelievable circumstances. I love the movie Rudy and any true story about the underdogs setting a goal, believing they can do it, and making it happen. (more…)
Four Tried and True Time Management Techniques
I have a type A personality and have finally accepted that I can’t change my type. I love to organize just about anything and I’m constantly looking for ways to improve a process. In fact, many of these skills comprise what I do for a living as an IT Product Manager. I get excited in the Container Store and I love to help my friends and family purge a purse and organize a closet. Remember the show, Clean Sweep? Loved it! Years ago I took a Franklin Covey time management class and it was right up my alley. If organization was a language, I’d consider myself fluent. Below, I’m going to try and consolidate my best secrets and systems around time management in the hopes of giving you back a few more hours in your day for you to focus on your personal health and wellness. (more…)
No, this isn’t a typo. I don’t mean indispensable. I truly mean dispensable and here’s why.
If you are indispensable then you are a roadblock in your own life. Everyone is counting on you to help them, they essentially can’t survive without you, or at least think they can’t. No one else can do it the way you do, right?
I’m like you…often feeling squeezed among layers of responsibilities and usually pressed for time. I have felt like I can’t focus attention on any one thing well since I’m just doing a quick once over on many competing items. Life can look like a nest of hungry baby robins depending on mama to be fed. You want to help everyone but you are just one person and there are only so many worms. (more…)
Staying sane in this busy life and working to enjoy the journey is something I couldn’t do without the help of my husband, Jason. Like many of you, we often divide and conquer with the kid’s activities, homework, appointments, household responsibilities, etc. Some weeks I’m crazed and he picks up the slack and vice versa. We strive for a family rhythm but stuff happens from week to week and we have to adjust.
My husband and I are approaching our 19th wedding anniversary. As I see all the prom pictures on Facebook, I let people know that I married my prom date. This can happen! At the time, I was definitely ‘in love’ but I don’t know that I was thinking about marriage. I was more concerned with if our relationship will handle the distance of me going to Penn State while he was back in Georgia as a senior in high school.
One of the best relationship books I have ever read and added to the ‘my-5-stars’ bookshelf on Goodreads is The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman. I called this book a game changer, particularly if both you and your spouse read it. It’s not a huge book – 208 pages or you can listen to it on Audible like I did. You can thank me later. (more…)
You see those helicopter parents hovering over their kids everywhere basically never letting their kids experience failure and helping them each step of the way. I know these moms and dads think are doing a good thing but frankly I feel like it is a disservice to their child. God forbid, what if one of these helicopter parents has a crash crisis landing? What will happen to these children that have no clue how to fend for themselves? I was grateful that I had already instilled in my kids some responsibility when I returned to work outside the home five years ago because once my husband and I began to provide care for our aging parents and were stretched out even thinner, our kids were in a prime position to pick up even more of the areas that began to slack.
I usually tell my kids that my job as their parent basically boils down to two main things:
1) Keep them safe.
2) Help them become people that others enjoy being around. (more…)