This recent series of blog posts is about making time for yourself and then using your ME time wisely. In the first post in this series, I offered some time management tips that work for me. If you missed this post, check it out here. Now we need to hone into where you want this ME time to be spent, but first you need to pause and make a plan.
Make things happen
There are two main buckets of people. Those that wait for things to happen to them and those that make things happen. I prefer to surround myself with the people that make things happen. I find them more interesting to talk to, inspiring, and uplifting. Perhaps this explains why I have a sick fascination with reading true WW II stories about survivors of the Holocaust. I can’t get enough of the stories about the strength and perseverance these usually ordinary people had to fight through extreme and unbelievable circumstances. I love the movie Rudy and any true story about the underdogs setting a goal, believing they can do it, and making it happen. (more…)
Four Tried and True Time Management Techniques
I have a type A personality and have finally accepted that I can’t change my type. I love to organize just about anything and I’m constantly looking for ways to improve a process. In fact, many of these skills comprise what I do for a living as an IT Product Manager. I get excited in the Container Store and I love to help my friends and family purge a purse and organize a closet. Remember the show, Clean Sweep? Loved it! Years ago I took a Franklin Covey time management class and it was right up my alley. If organization was a language, I’d consider myself fluent. Below, I’m going to try and consolidate my best secrets and systems around time management in the hopes of giving you back a few more hours in your day for you to focus on your personal health and wellness. (more…)
No, this isn’t a typo. I don’t mean indispensable. I truly mean dispensable and here’s why.
If you are indispensable then you are a roadblock in your own life. Everyone is counting on you to help them, they essentially can’t survive without you, or at least think they can’t. No one else can do it the way you do, right?
I’m like you…often feeling squeezed among layers of responsibilities and usually pressed for time. I have felt like I can’t focus attention on any one thing well since I’m just doing a quick once over on many competing items. Life can look like a nest of hungry baby robins depending on mama to be fed. You want to help everyone but you are just one person and there are only so many worms. (more…)
Staying sane in this busy life and working to enjoy the journey is something I couldn’t do without the help of my husband, Jason. Like many of you, we often divide and conquer with the kid’s activities, homework, appointments, household responsibilities, etc. Some weeks I’m crazed and he picks up the slack and vice versa. We strive for a family rhythm but stuff happens from week to week and we have to adjust.
My husband and I are approaching our 19th wedding anniversary. As I see all the prom pictures on Facebook, I let people know that I married my prom date. This can happen! At the time, I was definitely ‘in love’ but I don’t know that I was thinking about marriage. I was more concerned with if our relationship will handle the distance of me going to Penn State while he was back in Georgia as a senior in high school.
One of the best relationship books I have ever read and added to the ‘my-5-stars’ bookshelf on Goodreads is The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman. I called this book a game changer, particularly if both you and your spouse read it. It’s not a huge book – 208 pages or you can listen to it on Audible like I did. You can thank me later. (more…)
You see those helicopter parents hovering over their kids everywhere basically never letting their kids experience failure and helping them each step of the way. I know these moms and dads think are doing a good thing but frankly I feel like it is a disservice to their child. God forbid, what if one of these helicopter parents has a crash crisis landing? What will happen to these children that have no clue how to fend for themselves? I was grateful that I had already instilled in my kids some responsibility when I returned to work outside the home five years ago because once my husband and I began to provide care for our aging parents and were stretched out even thinner, our kids were in a prime position to pick up even more of the areas that began to slack.
I usually tell my kids that my job as their parent basically boils down to two main things:
1) Keep them safe.
2) Help them become people that others enjoy being around. (more…)